Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. Ephesians 4:26–27 (NLT)
Have you ever experienced a strong physical reaction when making a decision? I can remember times when I’ve had such a strong sensation that I felt sick to my stomach. I couldn’t explain why, but I just knew that the answer was no.
It’s vital to reason things out with logic and data, but if something only seems right in my head but wrong in my gut, something isn’t right. I’ve learned to go with my gut every time. This is one of the ways Holy Spirit leads us.
If your gut is telling you that you need to deal with an issue that’s affecting a relationship, it’s time to get to the bottom of it. Most people are uncomfortable dealing with conflict. They procrastinate, which only makes it more difficult for everyone involved. Trust your gut and get to the heart of the issue. Ask yourself:
- Am I offended with this person?
Never just sit on an offense and hope it goes away. Most people fail to even recognize when they’re offended. Pay attention to how you react when you’re hurt or insulted. Does your face flush? Do you get angry? Then, when you’re calm, talk it out.
- Have I offended this person?
You can tell if you’ve offended someone because they get distant around you. Don’t assume they’ll get over it. Approach them, ask questions, and be open to what they have to say. In clearing up offense, you’ll strengthen the relationship. Above all, learn to trust that gut feeling that comes from Holy Spirit when it comes to your relationships. He won’t steer you wrong.