And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me… For when I am weak, then I am strong. 2 Corinthians 12:9–10 (NKJV)
When it comes to marriage, I find that most men want two things: they want a best friend in their wife, and they want a warm, wonderful sex life with her. But these are also two areas where men struggle.
Let me speak to the wives first. This may be hard to hear, but you can’t change your husband. I know you’re brilliant at improving things, especially in relationships—but your husband is a free-will being. Instead of trying to change him, talk to him. Find out what he thinks and listen without criticizing.
Husbands, if you want a marriage that lasts—and thrives—you’ll need the courage and humility to talk about the hard things with your wife. Ask her to speak into your life. You may not like everything she has to say but listen for the truth behind her words. Be willing to open up and let her know about your own hurts and fears as well. This vulnerability will provide the basis for a strong friendship with your spouse.
Being an incredible husband and father starts with first being a great man. This greatness doesn’t mean you have no weaknesses. It means you’ve established who you are as a man of God. You no longer require your wife or kids to validate you. Instead, you’re confident and secure in who God says you are, and this empowers you to be your wife’s best friend and lover for a lifetime.